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Transformational Talk
Are you afraid to be generous?
For some giving is fraught with fears of not getting enough in return. Financial, physical, emotional, resources are guarded with tight fists. Exchanges often involve tally sheets—making sure things are even. The problem is being stingy with others is often a signal you’re being stingy with yourself.
Here’s the tip. See if you’re ready to give yourself the compassion you deserve. If yes, say to yourself, “of course it’s hard to give when you feel scared and deprived.” Look inside and find that little one who never got enough of what was truly needed. Be gentle. Share your pain with someone who cares. Tears may flow. Allow them. Stop when your body is done and focus on the warm relief that follows.
Next, exhale slowly and make a decision to be generous with yourself starting now. Imagine taking your little inner child by the hand and declaring, “I want to give to you.” Begin with simple pleasures – tea time, naps, baths, nature, books, music, art, movement.
Make a point to give yourself some pleasure every day. Notice how good it feels to receive. Once you’ve gotten the knack of being good to yourself (and only after this becomes a regular habit,) branch out. Give someone else a little treat every day. Notice how good it feels to give. Feel your heart expanding. You’re safe now. Someone is caring for you. You can enjoy your abundant life.
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Penelope Young Andrade, LCSW www.penelopetalk.com Call: 858-481-5752 fax: 858-484-8374 email: PenelopeYAndrade@gmail.com