October 2010

Hello Arielle and Brian,

I constantly have people telling me that I should pursue online dating. I am not sure if this is a sign from the Universe or not, but I feel absolutely no inspiration whatsoever to do this. The idea just brings bad vibes. If you do not take the signs the universe provides, does it stop orchestrating ways of bringing you a soulmate. I know the Law of Attraction is always in play, but I am still concerned that since I am not acting on the universes sign, because there is no inspiration, that it still sends a negative message to the universe. Also I briefly met a man at my work, a customer who looked exactly like the type of guy I visualized,right down to the exact shirt and jeans. Unfortunately I was too focused on my work too pay much attention to him. I am planning to visualize seeing this particular man again, but I’m wondering if that will limit my chances of manifesting anyone else just in case he isn’t my intended soulmate. Please advise!

Thanks, Bonnie

Hi Bonnie,

We don’t believe that you have to force yourself to do anything you don’t want to do in order to manifest your soulmate.  It sounds like online dating is NOT for you, so stop discussing it with other people and rehashing it with yourself.

Remember, the process of attracting your soulmate is one of magnetism. When you make the choice to live as if your soulmate is already a part of your life, you send out an irresistible signal to the Universe that you are ready now. Not a signal that you’ll be ready someday—when you work less and your house is clean and you’ve lost five pounds! Remember the famous line in the 1989 movie, Field of Dreams starring Kevin Costner? “If you build it, they will come.” Living “as if” is like flipping on a light switch inside your heart. This is the light your beloved will use to navigate his or her way to your door of love, care and appreciation.

If you stay focused on “knowing” that the one you asked for is ALREADY yours, savor the waiting and love your life unconditionally, the right one will appear at the right time. If it happens to be the customer you described, how nice, but since you don’t even know anything about him, except for his looks, I think you will block other potential possible soulmates by focusing on a stranger.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle and Brian

 

Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the author of seven books including Hot Chocolate for the Mystical Soul. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a lifelong interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA.

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